I’m Sam Adams
Life Coach and Mentor
Lead Yourself. Free Yourself. Transform Your Life.
The Three Pillar Life System™
The Three Pillar Life System™ is a self-leadership coaching program rooted in Internal Family Systems Therapy, designed to help you master your emotions, realign your purpose, and build lasting inner peace — supported for life by your own personalized AI coaching assistant.
This is not traditional therapy. It’s not self-help fluff. It’s a complete system to rebuild your relationship with yourself, take leadership of your inner world, and thrive in your external life — on your terms, at your pace, and with real tools that last.
What Is the Three Pillar Life System™?
The Three Pillar Life System™ is a transformative coaching method designed to help you build emotional mastery, live in honest alignment with your values, and create healthier, more secure attachments — internally and externally.
Rooted in Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS) and enhanced by practical coaching tools and CBT-informed strategies, this system teaches you how to lead your life from within. Instead of reacting to life’s challenges, you learn to lead through them — guided by a structured framework, personal coaching, and a lifelong AI coaching assistant trained to understand you.
Whether you’re dealing with relationship struggles, identity confusion, addictive behaviors, or emotional overwhelm, the Three Pillar Life System™ gives you the tools to take ownership of your healing, your growth, and your future.
Pillar 1 - Happy
Learn how to build a true relationship with your internal “Self” and emotional “Parts.” This pillar teaches you how to regulate your system, dissolve inner conflict, and restore emotional harmony — so you can experience happiness not as a feeling, but as a natural state of being.
Pillar 2 - Honest
Discover your seven core orientations — ethical, relational, spiritual, and more — and begin aligning your external life with your internal truths. This pillar is about clarity, authenticity, and living without compromise. This is where real honesty begins.
Pillar 3 - Healthy
Break free from anxious, avoidant, or codependent patterns. This pillar empowers you to reclaim your time, energy, and boundaries. Learn to create secure attachments within yourself — and model them externally in love, family, and work.
Why This Works, When Nothing Else Has
Most people try therapy, read books, or make surface-level changes — only to find themselves stuck in the same emotional cycles. That’s because most approaches treat the symptoms of suffering, not the systems behind it.
The Three Pillar Life System™ is different.
It’s structured, experiential, and transformational by design — addressing the emotional, cognitive, and relational patterns at their root. This isn’t about talking through your problems. It’s about learning how to lead your inner world before life happens — not just reacting after it does.
How is this different from therapy?
Traditional therapy helps you process emotions and explore your past, but often lacks structure, end goals, or practical tools. TPLS gives you a step-by-step framework for transformation, clear internal tools for daily use, and an AI-based coaching assistant to keep you supported for life.
How is this different from self-help books?
Books can offer insight — but they rarely help you integrate what you learn. TPLS is interactive. You’ll engage directly with your emotional Parts, clarify your values, track commitments, and practice internal leadership daily.
What makes the system actually work?
TPLS works because it addresses your whole internal system:
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Emotional regulation through Self-Part relationship
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Logical realignment through life orientations
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Attachment repair through energy equilibrium
You aren’t patched up — you’re rebuilt.
What if I’ve already tried everything else?
Most people who find TPLS have. That’s why the system exists. When you’ve hit your wall — with therapy, programs, or relationships — this is the reset that helps you finally build from the inside out.
How do I know this will work for me?
Because this system adapts to you. Whether you’re facing relationship wounds, trauma, addiction, or identity confusion, TPLS gives you tools that are flexible, non-pathologizing, and deeply human. No labels. No shame. Just structure, leadership, and lasting change.
I’m Sam Adams
I’m not just the creator of the Three Pillar Life System™ — I’m its first success story. My life was shaped by early trauma, the loss of four father figures, addiction, failed relationships, and emotional chaos. For over a decade, I lived reactive, disconnected, and emotionally lost. That pain became my catalyst.
Out of that darkness, I committed to something better: to understand how we heal, lead, and transform from the inside out. I studied Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy for over five years, integrated evidence-based tools from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, and graduated from Conor McMillen’s Self-Leadership Coaching Academy. That journey gave me the blueprint — and from that, the Three Pillar Life System™ was born.
This system isn’t theory. It’s not a motivational gimmick. It’s the real framework I used to rebuild my life — and now, it’s helped others do the same. I’ve coached clients through rebuilding broken marriages, overcoming addiction, embracing identity, and finding peace after devastating loss. This work is sacred to me because I’ve lived the need for it.
If you’re ready to stop surviving and start leading — your journey begins here.
Is This System Right for You?
The Three Pillar Life System™ was created for people who are ready to stop spinning in circles and start moving forward — not just emotionally, but in every area of life. This is for people who want structure, clarity, and ownership over their healing and growth.
You’re the right fit for this system if:
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You’ve experienced trauma, betrayal, or loss — and you want a system that helps you lead through it, not just survive it
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You feel emotionally overwhelmed or disconnected and crave real internal harmony
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You’re stuck in toxic relationship patterns or unhealthy habits that keep repeating
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You feel misaligned in your career, identity, or personal direction
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You’ve tried therapy or self-help and still feel like something’s missing
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You’re ready to do the inner work that creates lifelong change — and you’re willing to lead it from within
How it Works.
Reconnect with Self & Build Emotional Harmony
Begin your journey by understanding your emotional system. Learn how to identify and build relationship with your internal “Parts” — the voices that carry your sadness, anger, anxiety, joy, and more. Through visualization, journaling, and calming techniques, you’ll develop a grounded connection to your “Self” and learn to lead your emotions.
Reclaim Autonomy & Build Secure Relationships
Many people operate from insecure attachment patterns that create imbalance, burnout, or codependence. In this pillar, you’ll take inventory of your time, energy, and boundaries. You’ll learn to prioritize yourself without guilt, develop secure attachment to your internal systems, and create healthier external relationships — rooted in equilibrium, not obligation.
Clarify Your Values & Align with Your True Direction
Once your emotional world begins to stabilize, you’ll explore your inner compass — the seven life orientations that define your beliefs, identity, and desires. This pillar helps you identify what’s truly you, free from pressure or programming. You’ll learn to make honest commitments and bring your external life into alignment with your internal truth.
Stay Aligned for Life with Your Personalized AI Coach
After completing the core work, you’ll receive a custom-built AI assistant trained on your unique system. This lifelong digital companion will help you journal, identify emotional patterns, reinforce commitments, and stay grounded in your Self-led leadership — anytime, anywhere. Growth never stops, and now, neither will your support.
What you Get.
One-on-One Coaching
Work directly with a certified Self-Leadership Coach trained in Internal Family Systems. Together, we’ll build your emotional fluency, clarify your internal alignment, and design the foundation for your transformation.
AI Coaching Assistant Build
At the end of your core journey, we’ll install and configure your personal AI Coaching Assistant — trained to recognize your parts, track your journaling, and respond in alignment with your inner system.
Ongoing AI Support
You’ll receive continued access to support for optimizing your AI assistant, answering technical questions, and upgrading your model over time — so your growth never stalls.